Plugin Installation Template: Bad Date Detector
System Requirements
- Tired of repeating the same relationship mistakes
- Willing to examine why you’re attracted to people who hurt you
- Honest enough to admit when you’re seeking validation over connection
Installation Process
Step 1: Uninstall Old Programming
Current Setting: “I can fix them/This time will be different/Maybe I’m too picky”
New Setting: “Patterns repeat until I change the code that creates them”
The Reframe: Bad dates aren’t bad luck. They’re your unconscious mind selecting familiar dysfunction. That “spark” you feel? It’s often your trauma recognising matching trauma. Your picker isn’t broken, it’s programmed. Time to debug the algorithm.
Step 2: Update Your Response
Old Response: Ignore red flags, focus on potential, make excuses for their behavior
New Response: “What is my attraction to this person telling me about myself?”
Step 3: Install New Protocol
Before, during, and after dates:
- Scan – “What am I hoping this person will give me that I won’t give myself?”
- Detect – “Am I attracted to their problems? Their unavailability? Their need to be saved?”
- Redirect – “What would I do with my time if I wasn’t trying to earn their validation?”
Beta Test Instructions
For your next 3 dating interactions (apps, dates, or crushes), run this scan:
- Before engaging: “What am I seeking?
Validation, distraction, or genuine connection?”
- During interaction: “How do I feel about myself around this person?
Anxious? Calm? Desperate?”
- After: “Did I show up as myself, or as who I thought they wanted?”
Red Flag Detection: Notice if you’re making excuses, feeling anxious, or trying to prove your worth
Test Duration: 2 weeks of conscious dating awareness
Advanced Settings (Optional)
- Trauma Bond Scanner: Recognise addictive vs healthy chemistry
- Validation Dependency Audit: Identify what you’re outsourcing to others
- Avoidance Pattern Recognition: See when dating distracts from life goals
- Self-Worth Calibration: Build internal validation systems
- Future Faking Detector: Spot people who promise what they can’t deliver
Support: Feeling lonely without drama? That’s normal. Check community for healthy relationship examples and self-worth building exercises.
Warning: This plugin may cause temporary dating app fatigue as your standards actually align with your wellbeing. Side effects include: choosing yourself, attracting healthier people, and having more energy for your actual life.
Remember: The right person won’t make you question your worth. They’ll remind you of it.
Bug Check Loop:
- Which red flags still slip past your detector?
- When did you override the warnings?
- What patterns keep repeating despite awareness?
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